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Divorce – The Consequences; Understanding; Solutions
You are important, very, very, important
The family unit, you and your family, is the fundamental unit of society - your neighborhood, community, nation, planet Earth. And it all starts with you, the individual, and what you really want – because the rewards or negative consequences of each and every decision you make, each and every minute, will result in the person, the family, the neighborhood, community, and nation you have and live in. And the best part of it all? When it comes right down to it, you only have to worry about one person – you. You change, you improve, you make better decisions – starting right now – and you will begin to see positive improvements in everything and everyone around you. You really do make a big difference. And, say, 30-40 years from now, you’ll really see how big and wonderful you and your world are. The bed you make, is the bed you will be sleeping in, including very possibly your posterity too. So, make sure it’s the bed you want, and not what others think you should have. What you really want is what you’re going to get, so you have the power to change anything. Where will you decide and choose to end up? Will you look back and say that ‘such and such’ was the worst decision you made in your life?
Solutions are closer than you realize
Bottom line when it comes to divorce, Tunabudget believes there are solutions that will make everything right in your life sooner or later. This includes your family life and financial well-being. As difficult as the topic of divorce is even to talk about, it is important to understand the status of marriage and divorce in the world, the short-term negative effects of divorce on children, as well as the long-term effects of divorce. If you are on the path of divorce, find appropriate solutions and ensure your marriage is rock solid, as well as your family, and your financial well-being. You will always have the ability to choose. If you are divorced, the child of divorced parents, know that you can get through this; solutions are within reach. Consider these sobering statistics of the consequences of divorce:
Top 10 Countries with Highest Divorce Rate in the World:
10. United States of America - 53%
9. France - 55%
8. Cuba - 56%
7. Estonia - 58%
6. Luxembourg - 60%
5. Spain - 63%
4. Czech Republic - 66%
3. Hungary - 67%
2. Portugal - 68%
1. Belgium - 71%
Source: Trendrr.net (Top 10 Countries with the Highest Divorce Rates in the World), April 2020
Short-term Negative Effects of Divorce on Children,
Intense stress; anxiety
Overwhelming emotions; constant stress
Constant fear about safety; mood swings and irritability
Difficulty completing tasks; intense sadness
Academic problems; disillusion and distress
Behavior and social problems; trouble with relationships
Regression to previous and younger habit; prone to substance abuse
Feeling of powerlessness; depression
Total confusion; poor education and socio-economic position
Sources: Divorcedmoms.com, November 2013; Momjunction.com, December 2019
Long Term Effects of Divorce:
Enduring Consequences
Unlike the experience of divorced former spouses, a child’s suffering does not reach its peak at the divorce and then level off
The effect of the parents’ divorce can affect children for years to come; even 30 years after the divorce, negative long-term repercussions still clearly affected the income, health, and behavior of many [of the] grown children, and increased their risk for depression
Intergenerational Effects
Divorce has a profound intergenerational effect; one study showed that ever-divorced grandparents live significantly farther away from the parent and grandchild…report a weaker relationship with the parent…and are more likely to be part of a family system where both generations have divorced
Divorce in the first generation was associated with lower education, more marital discord, weaker ties with mothers, and weaker ties with fathers in the third generation
Parental divorce has consequences for children and subsequent generations; parental divorce doubled the odds of divorce in the child’s own life
Costs
Children of divorce are less likely to think they should support their parents in old age; this portends a monumental public cost problem for the frequently-divorced baby boom generation as it becomes the dependent elderly generation in the first half of the 21st century
Impact on Our Nation (USA)
The family is the building block of society, and marriage is its foundation
Divorce has pervasive weakening effects on children and on all of the five major institutions of society—the family, the church, the school, the marketplace, and government itself
This foundation is growing weaker as fewer adults marry, more adults divorce, and more adults choose single parenthood or cohabitation
Society’s five major institutions all have a great interest in reducing divorce to almost zero, for it weakens each institution by weakening the human capacities of each laborer, citizen, worshiper, and student that it touches
American children today are weaker than children of previous generations— intellectually, morally, emotionally, and physically, and our human capital is decreasing American today is socially weaker than in the past, and the America of tomorrow will be weaker still; few are willing to point to divorce as a major contributor to the economic problem
Americans in the media and in politics are comfortable pointing at a failing educational system or at teenage unwed mothers and the deleterious effects they have on children and society, but no one likes to dwell on the pervasive and broad negative effects of divorce
Source: Marripedia.org
CANDID QUESTIONS
Do you know in your heart that there are solutions to any problem?
Do you know that everything will be all right, and okay?
How forgiving is your heart?
Do you have pride?
Will you apologize and try again?
Why not?
Are you sure?
Hmmmm…